In a world that seems to focus more on what people do wrong than what they do right, it’s fair to say encouragement is rarely given. We are much more inclined to inform people of their mistakes than we are to encourage them toward success.
We tend to do this to ourselves, as well. We focus on our blunders and forget about our accomplishments, often in the name of humility. But true humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking more of others.
There are also those on the other side of the coin who have a tendency to think much of themselves, often discounting the efforts and achievements of others because they are too busy admiring their own accomplishments. Society often refers to these people as prima donnas, jerks, or worse.
The balance always lies somewhere in the middle, and this is where we should strive to position ourselves. If I had to pick a phrase to describe this ideal, I would want people to reflect on me as a justifiably confident person who made a habit of encouraging others.
When it comes to how we view ourselves, achieving this balance is a delicate tight rope walk that requires extreme focus and intentionality to the way we live.
Here are two things we must do to achieve this balance:
1. Acknowledge the skills and abilities you have and accept the fact you are good at them. Take a moment and beginning making a list of your accomplishments in life and for what others most often compliment you. You’re not being arrogant in doing this; you’re being honest with yourself. This list is for you, and there is no need to share it with others except maybe a spouse or a best friend. When we start telling others how great we are, then we become arrogant and other names mentioned above.
2. Find opportunities throughout your day to encourage those in your life. If you take a moment to look around, you’ll be surprised how many opportunities you have to congratulate people on their success or motivate them towards future success. Encouragement is fuel for the soul, and we all have an abundant supply of it just sitting on the tip of our tongues.
Be confident in who you are, and help others be confident in who they are. You have the ability to make this happen. The choice is yours.